I recently blogged about my experience donating eggs. In this post I want to explain why I decided to become an egg donor. There are three main reasons:
1. Someone very special to me needed a donor.
2. My family is complete and I’ve no more need of my eggs.
I’m not sure if it’s because I’m a biologist or an atheist but I’m not particularly freaked out by the idea of my genetic material being used to make a child who won’t be mine. The law in New Zealand is very clear – if a child is made using my eggs, that child is the child of the woman who gave birth to it, not mine. Yes, it may have my green eyes and my dimples, but I won’t be it’s mother. The law is also very clear that if a child is born, that child will have the right to know who I am when they reach a certain age. In my case, the person I have donated my eggs to is a permanent feature in my life. We have been open with our families about everything so if we are lucky enough that there is a child from my donation, my role will not be a big secret.
3. Society functions because ordinary people do generous things.
I’m not special. Yes, I have given someone a special gift but this is the kind of world I want to live in. I want to be able to have a life-saving blood transfusion if I need one – something only made possible because people give blood. I urge you all to think about what generous things you could do in the coming year. Perhaps you could look into joining a bone marrow register, or let your family know you are happy to be an organ donor. Think about how you would feel if you were the one who needed that generous gift.